“Our help is in the name of the Lord, who made heaven and earth”. Psalms 124:8 NASB
“I just don’t know where to turn,” a lady who was caring for her husband with Alzheimer disease once told me.
“I’m overwhelmed. I never thought I’d be in this situation. My husband was the strong one,” she continued as she tried to hold back tears.
The load can be heavy when caring for a loved-one who requires constant care. Sometimes the loved-one’s illness has put a financial strain on the family. The loss of income can be devastating especially if the patient was the primary bread winner. Sometimes a caregiver must quit work to care for their spouse or parent. Often this leaves little or no money for outside assistance.
Even if both spouses are retired there can still be little-afforded expenses for doctor visits, medication, adult day-care, in-home care, or full-time care in a facility. Unfortunately, most people haven’t purchased long term care insurance and are unprepared for the additional expenses.
Financial help may be available through Social Security or the Veterans Administration. Since my father was a veteran during a time of conflict, my mother was eligible for aid and assistance. Some companies offer disability if the person is still working. Additionally, some life insurance policies allow for withdrawal of some of the funds prior to death for long-term care.
Thankfully, my father purchased long-term care insurance which relieves some of the financial burden of caring for my mother. We can have some in-home care as well as placing mother in an adult day-care a few days a week. But, what do you do if you don’t have financial assistance?
May I suggest prayer? No matter how difficult the situation, prayer will help. Pray and ask God for guidance and assistance. Consider this scripture:
“Return and say to Hezekiah, the ruler of my people, ‘Thus sayeth the LORD, the God of your father David, “I have heard your prayer. I have seen your tears”. 2 Kings 20:5 NASB
So many gifts from God are never delivered because we do not ask. The words of this hymn are true:
What a Friend we have in Jesus,
All our sins and griefs to bear!
What a privilege to carry
Everything to God in prayer!
O What peace we often forfeit,
O What needless pain we bear,
All because we do not carry
Everything to God in prayer.
What a Friend We Have in Jesus
Text by Joseph M Scriven 1820-1886
Music by Charles C Converse 1832-1918
There is an old saying I’ve heard many times from the aged saints of the church, and it’s true, “Prayer changes things”. They have learned how faithful God is to His followers. Only by testing him will we learn the same lesson.
© Ronald Milburn 2018