If you are going through Hell, keep going-Winston Churchill
“It’s Hell,” a lady as she described caring for her husband who has early onset Alzheimer Disease. “I never knew it could be so hard. I do things I never thought I would. He messes himself, and I must clean him. It’s difficult because he doesn’t want to shower. He reminds me of a child, but a big one. I’m not young anymore, and he won’t grow out of it. It will get worse. I don’t know how much longer I can take it.” she continued.
Though heart-wrenching, this situation is too familiar. We start with the best intentions to care for our loved one who has dementia. But then, it becomes drudgery, messy, and challenging. Each day is the same as before, and you know tomorrow will be unchanged.
“I feel guilty when I consider placing him in a full-time facility. We vowed ‘for better or for worse’ when we got married,” the wife continued. “I hate myself if I get angry when he’s unreasonable because I know it’s not him, but he was the strong one. Can I be strong enough long enough? How can I get through this?” she said as her voice trailed to a whisper.
The advice of the Psalmist may be helpful for her.
Psalms 139: 4b-10a NASB
Even before there is a word on my tongue, Behold, O LORD, You know it all.
You have enclosed me behind and before and laid Your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is too high, I cannot attain to it.
Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence?
If I ascend to heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in Sheol, behold, You are there.
If I take the wings of the dawn, If I dwell in the remotest part of the sea,
Even there Your hand will lead me, And Your right hand will lay hold of me.
These words teach us, GOD IS WITH US! Even if He seems a thousand miles away, He is beside us. The Bible teaches us, God’s Spirit isn’t just in heaven but is in Hell (Sheol). It’s a difficult concept to grasp, but it assures us we can never be far away from the Spirit of God. So, if we don’t experience His presence, it must be us and not God.
A safecracker will file the tips of his fingers to make them more sensitive, so he can better feel the tumblers in the lock. In the same way, we need to sensitize ourselves to better know God’s presence and direction. We may improve their sensitivity to God by reading the scriptures or Christian books. Other’s find comfort in listening to spiritual music. Prayer may be the most important portal to heaven.
Seldom does God force himself on us. The scripture teaches though God is ever-present, we must seek him. Matthew 7:7 is a good example.
Ask, and it will be given you; seek, and you will find, knock, and it will be opened to you Matthew 7:7 NASB
So, if you are passing through a hellish time, seek God. I assure you He is watching and waiting for you.
© Copyright 2018 Ronald Milburn