Take Me Out to the Ballgame

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Mother has loved the St. Louis Cardinals baseball team for decades. Though she’s never been to the stadium, she seldom misses a game on television. A few years ago, she kept a printed schedule by her chair, but now I keep it for her.

Then, she knew all the players, but she no longer remembers their names. She can’t state the score unless she glances at the screen, but she still delights when they win.

Mom once told me it was boring if she couldn’t watch her team play. No other television show brings her so much joy, so we purchase a television baseball channel.

If the Red Birds don’t play, no other lineup will hold her attention. So, I record all the Cardinal games and save the best for later. On days they aren’t on, I play a pre-recorded game. If I tell her it’s a rerun, she won’t watch it, so it’s our secret. She won’t notice if she’s seen it before, or if it’s under the lights while she views in the afternoon.

Any time of day, I can raise her recliner, cover her legs with a soft blanket, and turn on a game. Then I say, “There’s a game on, Mom.”

I’m not exactly honest, but I’m not dishonest. She’s a comfortable, warm fan who’ll view the game for the first time, again.

Genesis 20: 1-3 New American Standard                                                                                   Now Abraham journeyed from there toward the land of the Negev and settled between Kadesh and Shur; then he sojourned in Gerar. Abraham said of Sarah, his wife, “She is my sister.” So Abimelech king of Gerar sent and took Sarah. But God came to Abimelech in a dream of the night, and said to him, “Behold, you are a dead man because of the woman whom you have taken, for I marry her.”

Abraham didn’t lie to Abimelech because Sarah was his half-sister, but he wasn’t honest, either. The bible claims he feared the godless people would kill him to take his beautiful wife. Likewise, I don’t inform Mother, she is watching a recording. I’m not misleading her. I am redirecting her.

Abraham misled Abimelech for his own personal gain, but I mislead Mother for her pleasure. I don’t deceive her to make it easier for me. To supply the excellent care for our charge, it may be best to redirect them with a less than precise instruction.

For instance, a few days ago, I dropped Mom at her daycare. As I was leaving, Robert, who has frontal-lobe dementia, approached.

He asked, “Will you help me find my car?”

I couldn’t let him follow me out the locked door, but I didn’t want to ignore him.

So, I said, “Sure, I’ll look over here.”

As he looked with distressed eyes, I pointed to a staff member.

“She’ll search over there.”

Satisfied, he scurried toward her. The staffer redirected him, and in a few minutes, he no longer hunted for his vehicle. In the same way, my mother enjoyed the Cardinals even when I prerecorded the game.

Abraham didn’t lie to Abimelech because Sarah was his half-sister, but he wasn’t honest, either. The bible claims he feared the godless people would kill him to take his beautiful wife. Likewise, I don’t inform Mother, she is watching a recording. I’m not misleading her. I am redirecting her.

Abraham misled Abimelech for his own personal gain, but I mislead Mother for her pleasure. I don’t deceive her to make it easier for me. To supply the excellent care for our charge, it may be best to redirect them with a less than precise instruction.
For instance, a few days ago, I dropped Mom at her daycare. As I was leaving, Robert, who has frontal-lobe dementia, approached.

He asked, “Will you help me find my car?”

I couldn’t let him follow me out the locked door, but I didn’t want to ignore him.

So I said, “Sure, I’ll look this over here.”

As he looked with distressed eyes, I pointed to a staff member.

“She’ll search over there.”

Satisfied, he scurried toward her. The staffer redirected him, and in a few minutes, he no longer hunted for his vehicle. In the same way, my mother enjoyed the Cardinals even when I prerecorded the game.

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