If you are going through Hell, keep going-Winston Churchill
“It’s Hell,” a lady as she described caring for her husband who has early-onset Alzheimer Disease. “I never knew it could be so hard. I do things I never thought I’d have to do. He messes himself, and I must clean it up. It’s difficult because he doesn’t want to take a shower. It’s like having a child in my home, but a big one. I’m not young anymore, and he won’t grow out of it. It’s only going to get worse. I don’t know how much longer I can take it.” she continued.
Unfortunately, this is common. We start with the best intentions to care for our loved-one who has dementia. But then, it becomes drudgery, messy, and difficult. Each day is like the day before, and you know tomorrow is going to be the same.
“I feel guilty when I think about placing him in a full-time facility. After all, I vowed ‘for better or for worse’ when we got married,” she continued with a quivering voice. “I also feel guilty for getting angry when he acts so unreasonable. I know it’s not him, but he was the strong one. I just don’t know if I can be strong enough long enough. How can I get through this?” she said as her voice trailed into a whisper.
The advice of the Psalmist seems appropriate.
Psalms 139: 4b-10a NASB
Even before there is a word on my tongue, Behold, O LORD, You know it all.
You have enclosed me behind and before, and laid Your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is too high, I cannot attain to it.
Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence?
If I ascend to heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in Sheol, behold, You are there.
If I take the wings of the dawn, If I dwell in the remotest part of the sea,
Even there Your hand will lead me, And Your right hand will lay hold of me.
These words teach us that GOD IS WITH YOU!!! Even if He feels a thousand miles away, He is beside you. We are told God’s Spirit is not only in heaven but is in Hell (Sheol). That’s certainly a difficult concept to grasp, but it assures us we can never be far away from the Spirit of God. So, if we don’t feel His presence it must be us and not God.
A safe-cracker will file the tips of his fingers to make them more sensitive, so he can better feel the tumblers in the lock. In the same way we need to sensitize ourselves to better feel God’s presence and direction. Some improve their sensitivity to God by reading the scriptures or Christian books. Other’s find comfort in listening to spiritual music. I believe prayer is the most important portal to heaven.
Rarely does God force himself on us. The scripture teaches though God is ever-present, we must seek him. Matthew 7:7 is a good example.
Ask and it will be given you; seek and you will find, knock and it will be opened to you Matthew 7:7 NASB
So, if you are going through a hellish time seek God. I assure you He is watching and waiting for you.
© Ronald Milburn 2018